I recently retired as a professor to concentrate fully on my writing career. That said, what I’ll miss the most are those discussions with my students. We talked about EVERYTHING. The best part was that we could discuss things that many of them didn’t feel they could discuss with their parents, or sometimes, their significant others.
I realized that those discussions can continue, just not in the classroom. And I realized that a lot of the information I wanted my students to have, I want anyone to have access too. I know my posts have kind of been all over the place, and they will still be a combination of a variety of things that I believe might impact lives, especially young ones, but to follow, I plan on several posts discussing things that maybe you wish someone had told you, but maybe they just felt too uncomfortable too.
Let me start with a word: penis. It’s a small word, only five letters, but when I was starting out as a therapist, I couldn’t say it. I grew up in a home where my brothers discussed the weather every time a tampon commercial played. When my mom told me that babies were made when boys and girls sleep in the same bed, I thought she was trying to tell me I was pregnant because I shared a bunked with my brother (I was eight so cut me some slack please.)
The thing is, we all have our comfort level when it comes to talking about different things. After my supervisor made me say penis twenty times every time I saw her, I got more comfortable with it. After working with teens who have suffered from sexual abuse, dealt with teen pregnancy and relationship issues, saying “penis” is like saying “knee cap” or “big toe”.
The best news is that no matter what your personal comfort level is, information is always good. Informed decisions are always better than un-informed decisions. What’s also awesome is teens are much smarter than what they’re given credit for.
Let me repeat that. Teens are smart. Yes, there are connections in the brain (mostly the part that helps understanding of cause and effect but we’ll talk more about that later), but a lot of the poor decisions teens make are NOT because of a lack of intelligence, but because they don’t have good information.
So let’s change that. Let’s get out the information that might just help you stay on course to have the future you’d like to have.
Stay tuned for some intense discussions on all types of things you’d like to know but may be afraid to ask.